Social Networks and Friends
I have had lifelong friends close their online friendships with me. Are we still friends? I have online friendships with people I have never met. Are we friends? People can be very petty, they walk away and just leave you wondering. Then the online friend, whom we have not met, can be so inappropriate and imposing you just have to wash your hands and let them go.
I would like to think that here on Peace Next we have a higher bar but it is a social network. The ecumenical structure of the site implies inclusion. How do we moderate behavioral expectations and maintain inclusion? A simple code? Some sort of group-think? What do you think?
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Permalink Reply by Spencer Perdriau on
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PS MT: The true mark of friendship, both earthly and spiritual, is to endure through the good times, as well as the bad, and be able to forgive during that as "well". It is really the bad times (no matter how fleeting or long), not the good, that truly tests our friendship with and towards others. We humans become so "easily" offended and ego bruised when we don't get our own way, and then very bitterly cut off from one another forever onwards in life, and then feel contemptuously negative about the person, very unnecessarily always onwards in our life. What true unity of friendship in life is that sort of conduct, as common as it is. If only we sincerely did our best to treat our friends with true compassion, assistance, and acceptance would we "cope" with mere fleeting offenses that come up at times due to our brief misunderstandings and inappropriateness. One brief offense should not destroy a long friendship, even though, very sadly, it does. This is certainly not the normal human way when friendships become tried and offended, but how much better we would all benefit from this more spiritual, compassionate way (and "code"), to sincerely and humbly act, for the restoration and enduring of the true friendship. The mark of true spiritual maturity is being able to know this nature of difference we have in us, and humbly do our best to make amends and peace to restore again. It is only personal "pride" (our ego self) that constantly "forces" us to not amend and do this. A true friend always stays with you and always tells how it is, for the betterment and healing of the friendship to endure and last. This does not necessarily need to be someone who we have known all our life. With spiritual and ethical matters, it can be a brief good friend of high spiritual and ethical conduct we know and relate to, mystically or otherwise.
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Kindness, tolerance, acceptance and inclusion, without pretense and overly imposing resentful, unnecessary authority what is not required (of members) to do so. As a simple honouring code for this respectable conduct, would quite rightly be this - to more practically and spiritually put the Second Great Commandment into "true" practice here on this website and elsewhere in life. After all, this is a religious/spiritual website.
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It is always wise and humble of us to graciously accept the “free” good advice of those who know better than us, who have been there and done that, without complaints due to our own blind attachments to our ego limitations we continue holding on to, that hold us back from greater “truer” understanding, appreciation and realization about Life & God. All our true Masters of faith and religion have taught us a better way “The Way” to true freedom and liberation. The reason why we so adamantly persist in our own limiting ways, and not take their better wiser advice, is because we are so ego attached to our own self importance, efforts and attainments, which “we” think are a better way than them.
PS: It only hurts because we are so very much “attached” to our own personal striving and attainment which “we” think is “better” than those far wiser than us. My advice – “Surrender to the greater/wiser good – God.”
Peace & Mystic Blessings from Spence :))
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Permalink Reply by Mystic Tourist on -
Peace Next is a well managed site and it welcomes a diverse wide range of input and opinion. To begin this discussion I used the word 'ecumenical' to describe the site because I think it is a better word than interfaith. My use of this word is as a bridge of all belief and faith practices and is not confined to Christianity.
We each are able to moderate what is said and who is allowed to say it on our personal Peace Next presence. One of my friends here on Peace next has been, in my opinion, consistently offensive and rude. I have contacted them privately concerning this to no avail. I have decided to adjust my moderation settings. For the time being only friends, in my friend file, will be able to comment on my posts and other personal content. I will remove that friend from my friend file, not because I am unfriendly toward them but because I feel their content is rude and offensive.
I do hope to adjust my settings to be less restrictive in the future but for now this seems the best course. Please feel free to send a friend request if you have a comment and are not on my friends list.
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Mystic Tourist said:
Peace Next is a well managed site and it welcomes a diverse wide range of input and opinion. To begin this discussion I used the word 'ecumenical' to describe the site because I think it is a better word than interfaith. My use of this word is as a bridge of all belief and faith practices and is not confined to Christianity.
We each are able to moderate what is said and who is allowed to say it on our personal Peace Next presence. One of my friends here on Peace next has been, in my opinion, consistently offensive and rude. I have contacted them privately concerning this to no avail. I have decided to adjust my moderation settings. For the time being only friends, in my friend file, will be able to comment on my posts and other personal content. I will remove that friend from my friend file, not because I am unfriendly toward them but because I feel their content is rude and offensive.
I do hope to adjust my settings to be less restrictive in the future but for now this seems the best course. Please feel free to send a friend request if you have a comment and are not on my friends list.
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Hi there MT. Thanks for that. Unfortunately, both you and Ron fail to see the the respectable, ethical reason for me putting Ron back in his proper place as a "member" of this site. Simply again for you and him, it was certainly not his place to impose authority that was not his to start with. I truly hope you both see that, and I will still always consider you both friends on PeaceNext, regardless of how you take my recent corrections upon Ron. I hope you can appreciate that without further complaints about it, both you and Ron. Let it go now please (you and Ron), and lets move on to bigger and brighter and "respectable" things here.
"Don't let mere fleeting offenses spoil good relations here."
Your mystic friend, always,
Spencer