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Permalink Reply by George Larson on April 29, 2011 at 6:32am

A noble pursuit, friend.

 

I'd highly encourage you to read the book "Spiral Dynamics" which does a lot to illustrate how people and societies graduate through discernible levels of development.  It helped me to understand why people need to taste fully of one thing (even hatred) before developing beyond that.  Remember, not everyone is going to get it all learned in this life.  It seems to me that the only choice you're left with is to love everyone for where they are -- and hope for them to notice.

 

Be well, friend.

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Permalink Reply by Grigori Rho Gharveyn on May 2, 2011 at 9:05pm

Dear brother Joseph,

You must find peace within yourself to find peace with others.

You must show compassion to yourself before you can be compassionate to others.

When you say someone is blatantly ignorant, unnecessarily violent, or not productive you are not putting yourself in the other person's place; instead, you are most likely judging them, possibly even condemning them with insufficient evidence.

The anger you direct toward people like this is something you choose to create within yourself.

This is anger against yourself, anger you reject and project outside of yourself, thereby seeing things in other people to make you angry.

What are you angry with regarding yourself?

Buddhism will show you that everything that angers you is your responsibility.

You can choose not to be angry in response.

Anger is a well-conditioned reflex.

Anger is an aculturated condition.

Anger is learned by observation and imitation.

Whose anger have you learned?

Whose anger are you imitating?

Nothing in the world has the power to make you angry except yourself.

You are responsible for all of your reactions to all of your anger-triggering issues.

Anger never solves a problem.

Consequently, if you are angry at people who are contributing to a problem, your own anger contributes more to the problem.

Whenever we are angry with anyone we must analyze our anger; what parts of ourselves are responding with anger?

Why are we responding with anger?

Do we have choices in how we can respond?

Can we respond intelligently, compassionately, respectfully, without anger?

Anger alienates us from the people we are angry with.

We cannot communicate effectively with alienated people when we are angry.

Consequently, anger is a self-defeating response because we must communicate with people successfully when we are angry in order to help resolve whatever issue has upset us, often only a misunderstanding not worth being angry about in the first place...

Anger is a power trip.

We learn to feel powerful when we are angry because we are frightened by powerful angry people as children.

We adopt anger to become scary when we are afraid in order to dominate the world that frightens us to prove to ourselves we are more powerful than whatever challenges we allow to anger us.

Learning anger is a natural process, a lesson perhaps no one can ever escape; however, unlearning anger is a willful process, a process many people seem to fail to learn.

If you want to become less angry try e-prime.  E-prime is a cognitive linguistic tool for changing how you speak and regard the world around you.  E-prime advises you to use fewer emotionally laden terms and to be more circumspect when making declarations.

E-prime helped us to become more peaceful, this is part of the purpose of e-prime, to moderate the use of words that escalate to conflict.

Learning e-prime changes how you learn to use your mind, it enables you to choose not to be angry in situations where you might have been reactively angry in the past.

There are so many things to be angry about that all people could be angry all the time...

To the degeree that you are a product of your social conditioning you will always be vulnerable to becoming angered when your cultural conditioning is challenged.

Learn to change your cultural conditioning.

Learn to manage your reactive mind.

Successfully mediating your reactive mind will and enable your creativity.

Learn to love yourself unconditionally.

The root of any person's vulnerability to anger is always an inadequate degree of self love.

Consistently apply only words and actions that are loving, nurturing, compassionate, and respectful both to yourself and to all others.

The more consistently you learn to love yourself well, the more you will enable yourself to love all other people well as well.

 

Energetically, all anger issues arise in our first three chakras, around our centers for power, emotions, and ideas.

Compassion is a product of your heart chakra, your fourth chakra.

We get hurt playing games of power and domination with the enegies of our root chakra, then we responsd to being hurt with anger, an emotion from our second chakra, the chakra governing our creativity as well as our emotions and sexuality.

Over time we learn to be fearful, a cognitive condition based on pain, anger, and resentment.

Our fear attracts the things we are afraid of by law of attraction and we learn to constantly find reasons to be angry as a consequence.

Compassions allows people to be as they are without judging them.  Compassion loves and nurtures in response, regardless of the issues because compassion is rooted in love.

The issues that make you angery are far less important than your reactive repsonses to be angry.  The issues are irrelevant, it is your need to be angry that you must address and mitigate, a need that can begin as social conditioning, but which can result in addiction to your own hormones.

The more you practice anger, the more you condition your body to crave the hormones produced when you are angry.

These are very powerful hormones that make you feel good physically, stronger, faster, more alert; better prepared for the worst and ready to take it on...

Consequently anger becomes habituated emotionally, cognitively, and biologically.

And yet, as easy it is to learn anger, Love, Compassion, Nurture, and Respect may be learned as well.

These healing qualities just take consistent practice to emerge, your own intention to be more compassionate will help your compassion emerge more fully.

 

Enjoy!

Blessed be...

Namaste

 

Permalink Reply by Mystic Tourist on May 26, 2011 at 6:01pm

It is true that the anger you feel belongs to you. When we assign it to those outside of ourself we are powerless. The anger has good purpose. It demonstrates that we are out of sorts and in so doing affords us opportunity for redress. There is a subtle language within each of us. A discussion we have with ourself by which we agree to be as we are. Be confidant that there is a way to understand the puzzle and find peace. In the steadfastness of this confidence and the will for redress I believe you will find your way.