First we must always say, Bis millah ir rahman nir raheem, brining so much power.
James Umar McConnell is living in Damascus for almost eight years, and during that time one good intentioned person
after another (many converts) are coming to Damascus to learn about Islam from
people who present themselves as big scholars, and devoted most of their lives
to learning in an academic environment that mimics a western style of
education. Many of them you may now know as big scholars, fellows, sheikhs,
doctors. The type of learning they pursued, Umar used to compare it to someone
who read a thousand books on marriage, memorized many chapters, received high
marks on their tests, and then graduated with a certificate. Now they take that
certificate, this new high identity that makes them feel accomplished, and
suddenly they are someone who knows, and are able to teach everything on
marriage. If you challenge them on any aspect of their teaching, they quickly
show you their qualifications, and then point to the chapter and section of the
book that proves they are right.
But a wise person would not ask about specifics, a wise person might ask,
"Teacher, have you ever loved a woman for the sake of (God) Allah,
and been married"? To which the Teacher, if they are honest, would have to
say, “no”, but would once again quickly remind people of their higher
education and degree. To which a wise person would quickly understand,
this teacher knows nothing about marriage, and nothing about LOVE! The highest
form of love - a love dedicated to the Creator of all Things. A kind of love
that grows sweeter each day, and does not diminish over time. Heavenly LOVE!
All Prophets and Saints are coming to teach Heavenly Respect, and Heavenly Love! This is the essence of all holy teaching.
Today we have good intentioned people, who nonetheless are following the western way, Shaitons (the devils)
way, their own egos, so proud of their accomplishment, and certificate.
Someone who is bonded to another for the sake of (God) Allah in marriage is not
proud, they are humbled by the honor, and so thankful for the opportunity,
giving all credit to the Creator, Allah Almighty.
If a person is married for the sake of (God) Allah, who really loves for the sake of Allah, is thankful and humble,
the answers on how to behave with ones wife (mate) are instinctive, inspired,
comes easily. When you truly love and wish to please someone, you intrinsically
know their needs, and are happy to do whatever it takes to please them, honor
them, and support them. True or False? In the few cases where you are not
understanding something, and wish to improve yourself, do you go to someone who
has read a 1000 books on marriage or do you go to your parents or grandparents
who have been successfully married for many years? Who know LOVE! Who have
taught you over the years by their good example.
Our biggest problem today are following fake scholars, who read books, and think they know, think they are
qualified to teach, but have never really understood LOVE. People who are
embracing a western style of education, and people who are paying for a degree.
People developing their own Wikipedia page, pointing to all the articles,
references, accolades, fake honors.
People must know about Heavenly Love, and Heavenly Respect, and real
The Prophetic method of teaching has always been the same, never changing. The bond between a man and woman, under
God, has always been the same, never changing. Now the State, is telling you
that the marriage license is for your own protection, your own good,
instituting a marriage license to control venereal disease, saying it is only
going to be a temporary measures, has full control over marriage, and now
giving the right of marriage to gay couples. All Shaitons (the Devils) traps -
and Islamic education has now become Shaitons trap as well. You must have a
license, degree, or certificate - not LOVE and a purified heart.
So all you big scholars, so eager to teach and show people the correct method, or a selection of correct methods for
reaching to Allah, need to learn what it is to LOVE, before calling yourselves,
believers, let alone, scholars.
If you show people an example of that LOVE, people are running to belief. But we do not have very many good examples
of that, because people are not looking for LOVE. If looking for LOVE, people
are finding what they are looking for, Allah never leaving them alone. Umar is
telling people he is a very poor example, do not follow him! But find a
true one, and follow them.
In his years of first trying to find an Islamic education (getting his certificate from Abu Nour University)
and then trying to find Love, He only found one or two really good
examples. By the Grace of Almighty Allah (swt) we all have an opportunity to
see each day Heavenly LOVE, Heavenly Respect, Heavenly Teachings. Teachings
that touch the heart, and bloom with wisdom - come alive in our daily lives -
providing real healing.
As an experiment, place a sincere (you understand a sincere question, not a
challenge) in your heart before watching these Heavenly Teachings and see if
your question is not answered. Try this several times. Then decide for
yourself, not what other people are saying, big scholars, fellows, doctors,
sheikhs . . . .
This is the best Umar says he has to offer, but quickly reminding us he is able to offer nothing.
All strength and power comes from Allah Almighty, Alone.
For the Honor of the Most Honored in Creation, Saydinah Muhammad (saw) Al-Fatiha